10 things to do when you are angry

1. Smile


Its hard to frown with a big smile on your face

2. Give your pet a belly rub

it will help stop rumination by taking your mind of the problem

3. Listen to your favorite CD

Has a calming effect and also stops you from focusing on the problem or person as much.

4. Watch your favorite show

Having good laugh tends to ease the stress of focusing on a problem

5. Eat dark chocolate

Feeling good without feeling guilty can't hurt

6. Have some hot cocoa



Ahhh! A nice cup of Hot cocoa always does the trick!

7. Get a massage

A nice massage will relax muscles and tension in the body. Check these cats out!


8. Jump into a jaccuzi: if you don't have one use one at the gym


The hot bubbles in the jaccuzi tend to relax muscles and help ease tension in the body

9. Go for a drive to a scenic place


The beautiful scenery may help to relax you.

10. Exercise

Working up a good sweat causes your body to release feel good hormones called endorphins
so work up that sweat and get happy already!

Ghetto?

Last night when watching Nene Leaks on the Celebrity Apprentice finale I had an epiphany or  an aha moment as Oprah would sometimes call it. As Star Jones spoke about the way in which Nene Leaks was an embarrassment to all professional black women I realized something, Nene Leaks is obviously ghetto but what is ghetto?

I realized that ghetto is a culture, ghetto is a part of some African American communities but the word ghetto should be replaced by the word culture. Being afro-caribbean myself I have a rich culture some of which I hold onto tightly and some of which I reject but nevertheless I am still who I am. Some African Americans who are viewed as ghetto are merely holding on to the undesirable aspects of their culture along with the desirable aspects.

I believe that ghetto is a culture because of the following things that are often labelled as ghetto:
hair- "ooh her hair style is ghetto"
jewelry- "ooh he got on some ghetto bling bling"
language- "why you gotta talk so ghetto?"
clothing- "ooh she is dressed soooo ghetto"

'Ghetto' Jewelry

In various cultures around the world whether they are Latin American, Caribbean, European, African etc. there are hairstyles, jewelry, language and clothing specific to the culture some of which are held highly by the native people and some of which are an embarrassment to some.

Aspects of the African American culture which was formerly known as ghetto(since I have taken upon myself to rename it as culture) should be carefully examined and the individual should allow themselves to esteem certain parts of their culture and reject other parts.

Nevertheless society should view African Americans dressed in culture specific ways as expressing a part of their culture whether it is desirable or undesirable it is still a part of their culture.

'ghetto' hairstyle

10 phrases that calm you down when you are angry with someone

1. He  is only human- remember that the person you are angry with is subject to faulty actions since they aren't God.
2. We all make mistakes- remember that you have gotten people angry before through a mistake you may have made so this might help to humble you.
3. She has her own problems- people have stuff they deal with quietly so keep that in mind next time you feeling like kicking someone.
4. He is having a bad day- that rude cashier may have met a lot of rude customers today so remember that the next time you feel like reporting them
5. She has a lot on her mind- Your friend may have a lot of stuff that she is dealing with which she may not have told you about so keep that in mind
6. I am loved nevertheless- you are loved even when you are feeling unloved
7. Peace be still- let your peace remain undisturbed
8. I am blessed- count your blessings they may shock you
9. I choose my own happiness- smile its going to be ok.
10. I can overcome this feeling- this too shall pass

To Dream or not to Dream

Dreams are great...they can propel you into greater dimensions of life with unparralleled speed.
Moving you from a dark, gloomy situation into a happy steaming one at the blink of an eye.
How do we get our dreams out of the clouds and in action? This question often puzzles those
self proclaimed procrastinators. How do we find that inner drive that propels us out of a state of being stuck to a driven inertia? How do we get our  dreams launched to the moon of success?